Flirting With Disaster

A recent question posted on Oprah.com asked if casual flirting was ever okay. I think that if you’re really into your significant other, there should be no reason or desire to flirt with someone else. It’s inconsiderate and disrespectful to your partner.

Rabbi Shmuley agrees and says that even if you believe it’s harmless, flirting with someone besides your significant other is wrong. According to Rabbi Shmuley, “Every time you flirt with someone you are not in a relationship with you are doing two things: diluting the intensity and the focus of the relationship and demonstrating to your partner that he or she is not enough to entertain you erotically. When you are in a relationship with someone, they become your one and only. The relationship is based on total primacy and total exclusivity, which would preclude finding erotic fun with anyone but the person you are in a relationship with."

He also notes that with every relationship comes a little jealousy. If it wasn’t there, your relationship would be lacking the passion it needs to survive. But all good things come in moderation. Too much jealousy is a recipe for disaster. It’s important to find that perfect blend between not enough, and too much.

"Make your partner feel like they are the one and the only," Shmuley says. "Stop playing with people you are not in a relationship with." I couldn’t agree more!