Did you know that the perfume you pick can play in your favor? According to Cosmopolitan.com, “research suggests that perfume not only makes you feel more attractive, but it can also act as a carnal catalyst.” Knowing what kind of scent your man likes will help you better harness their power.
“Psychologist and sociologist Joachim Mensing, PhD, identifies six male personality types and their preferred fragrances. Men who are uncomplicated and enterprising tend to go for fresh citrus, zesty, and herbaceous scents. Reflective loner types prefer warm, spicy, mysterious, Oriental notes. The supersocial spontaneous male likes light, cool, and invigorating scents; while a more reserved and sophisticated man is into warm, natural, woody fragrances. The suave metrosexual types gravitate toward colognes with leather and tobacco in them. Likewise, rugged noncomformist guys like leathery scents too, but with a cooler edge.”
"If you wear a fragrance you know he likes, it demonstrates that you're paying attention to his tastes and making an effort to please him," says Christopher Brosius, perfumer and founder of CB Limited in New York City.
So, the next time you’re out shopping with your man, swing by the beauty department and stick some testers under his nose. You’re bound to find the scent that sends him soaring now, and in the future!
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Monday, March 24, 2008
Your Personal Peep Show
If you’re looking to spice things up at home, unleash your inner exhibitionist and bring a stripper pole into the bedroom. Your man will love that you’re stepping outside the box and onto his personal “stage” for the ultimate private performance. These are great because they’re removable. You can have a night (or two) of fun, and no one will ever know what goes on behind closed doors!
Friday, March 21, 2008
Cheating to be Expected?
While it’s expected that men and women should have monogamous relationships, the truth is, men may just not be wired to maintain one. Not to offend the feminists out there, but for centuries, man has been the provider – the hunter and gatherer, if you will. One thing men have always hunted is women.
Although men have been tying the knot for years, it’s still in their nature to be attracted to, and “hunt”, new mates. I’m not condoning it by any means, but if you’re wondering why your husband can’t help but turn his head when a pretty woman crosses his path, that’s why. It’s not about you – it’s just in their nature.
“Nature wants one thing, and what it wants are babies,” Jeffrey Kluger, TIME magazine’s science editor, told TODAY’s Meredith Vieira. “It also wants lots of them and it wants variety, because the greater the genetic variety, the greater the likelihood that the babies are going to survive to adulthood and do well. So even when we’ve had children, we have some very primal software that keeps telling us, ‘Look around.’”
Americans are relatively unique in their expectation of lifelong fidelity. “Historically, most cultures are polygynous, meaning men are legally entitled to take multiple wives, and so mating with many women is very common across cultures and perfectly acceptable in many cultures,” said University of Texas psychologist and author David Buss. “Our culture is somewhat unique in that we have presumptive monogamy or legal monogamy — men are only supposed to have one woman.”
Even though it’s within a man’s instinct to breed more, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he will. Reputational damage alone can be enough to keep your man in line. He may notice an attractive woman, but fear not – he may hold lust in his mind, but he’s got love in his heart. It’s the 21st century; men aren’t building fires with rocks any more, so everything they do isn't based on animalistic instincts of the past. Perhaps some of those early instincts remain, but here’s the good news, he’s with you for a reason! So maybe his head turns when an attractive woman walks by (don’t pretend you don’t do the same thing when you do a double take to make sure that wasn’t Brad Pitt that walked by you on your lunch break), but he thinks you’re beautiful, too! Take nature for what it is, but remember all of the things that you love about one another BESIDES looks – why your relationship works and you’re still together!
Although men have been tying the knot for years, it’s still in their nature to be attracted to, and “hunt”, new mates. I’m not condoning it by any means, but if you’re wondering why your husband can’t help but turn his head when a pretty woman crosses his path, that’s why. It’s not about you – it’s just in their nature.
“Nature wants one thing, and what it wants are babies,” Jeffrey Kluger, TIME magazine’s science editor, told TODAY’s Meredith Vieira. “It also wants lots of them and it wants variety, because the greater the genetic variety, the greater the likelihood that the babies are going to survive to adulthood and do well. So even when we’ve had children, we have some very primal software that keeps telling us, ‘Look around.’”
Americans are relatively unique in their expectation of lifelong fidelity. “Historically, most cultures are polygynous, meaning men are legally entitled to take multiple wives, and so mating with many women is very common across cultures and perfectly acceptable in many cultures,” said University of Texas psychologist and author David Buss. “Our culture is somewhat unique in that we have presumptive monogamy or legal monogamy — men are only supposed to have one woman.”
Even though it’s within a man’s instinct to breed more, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he will. Reputational damage alone can be enough to keep your man in line. He may notice an attractive woman, but fear not – he may hold lust in his mind, but he’s got love in his heart. It’s the 21st century; men aren’t building fires with rocks any more, so everything they do isn't based on animalistic instincts of the past. Perhaps some of those early instincts remain, but here’s the good news, he’s with you for a reason! So maybe his head turns when an attractive woman walks by (don’t pretend you don’t do the same thing when you do a double take to make sure that wasn’t Brad Pitt that walked by you on your lunch break), but he thinks you’re beautiful, too! Take nature for what it is, but remember all of the things that you love about one another BESIDES looks – why your relationship works and you’re still together!
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Sex Does a Body Good!
If you want to do something that will make you not only feel better, but also look better, hit the sack! Keep reading for more info on how sex will improve your life in more ways than one!
- Scientific tests have found that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.
- Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.
- Lovemaking kills calories! It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. And all this time you thought you couldn’t afford a gym at home!
- Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being.
- Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. It is 10 times more effective than valium. (Although, I think that would depend on who you’re having it with, and how long it lasts!)
- Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque buildup.
- Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.
- Lots of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.
Monday, March 17, 2008
Couples: Private, Political and Public (Oh My!)
Recently, the events surrounding the Spitzer’s downward relationship spiral have launched the topic of political couples to the forefront of media coverage. I couldn’t help but think about the level of importance placed on relationships in the political limelight and how so many people judge a politician’s ability to lead the public by their ability to keep their private lives seemingly warm and fuzzy. Can you imagine the added pressure of keeping your partner happy while (simultaneously) wooing the general public?
There’s a great article on TangoMag.com that breaks down the relationships of each of the previous and current presidential candidates to see how they rank in terms of charisma, stability, chemistry, visibility and synergy. Perhaps the most recognizable home in the world, a couple’s ability to share the White House peacefully amidst public scrutiny is enough to test any relationship.
Side note: How do you think you’d be perceived in the public eye based on your previous and current relationships? Thought so!
Along those same lines, what about non-romantic political power couples? Take for instance Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama. With talk of a Democratic "dream ticket", Hillary and Obama could very well be in for a four year-long courtship as President and Vice-President. Who will "commit" to what role certainly remains to be seen, but, a recent invitation from Caesars Pocono Resorts for the candidates to hold a "friendly" debate on-property may help to rekindle their shared love of the blue party and keep those political sparks flying. What better place than where love lives to get them thinking about their latest "long-term relationship"?
There’s a great article on TangoMag.com that breaks down the relationships of each of the previous and current presidential candidates to see how they rank in terms of charisma, stability, chemistry, visibility and synergy. Perhaps the most recognizable home in the world, a couple’s ability to share the White House peacefully amidst public scrutiny is enough to test any relationship.
Side note: How do you think you’d be perceived in the public eye based on your previous and current relationships? Thought so!
Along those same lines, what about non-romantic political power couples? Take for instance Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama. With talk of a Democratic "dream ticket", Hillary and Obama could very well be in for a four year-long courtship as President and Vice-President. Who will "commit" to what role certainly remains to be seen, but, a recent invitation from Caesars Pocono Resorts for the candidates to hold a "friendly" debate on-property may help to rekindle their shared love of the blue party and keep those political sparks flying. What better place than where love lives to get them thinking about their latest "long-term relationship"?
Friday, March 14, 2008
More Sleep Equals More Sex?
If you’re wondering why your sex life has been lacking its luster lately, take into consideration how much sleep you and your partner have been getting.
With the amount of extra hours Americans are putting in between office work and household responsibilities, people are functioning at a much lower cognitive level than they should. When people don’t get the necessary amount of sleep, “they’re not going to be as attentive, they're going to make more mistakes, be more irritable," said Dr. Nicholas Rummo, director of the Center for Sleep Medicine at Northern Westchester Hospital in Mt. Kisco, N.Y.
According to a new poll recently released by the National Sleep Foundation, 20 percent of men and women surveyed nationwide have either lost interest in sex or have sex less often because of sleepiness.
Other research shows that 20 million married Americans have sex fewer than 10 times a year. That number absolutely baffles me. According to southwest Florida Pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church, “much marital discord stems from this lack of intimacy.” A lack of sexual pleasure in the bedroom can doom your relationship. “Sexless marriages (defined as sex less than 10 times a year) do not just invite infidelity and resentment,” said Wirth, “they also create rifts between husband and wife that often go unspoken and unhealed.”
So, my advice, plain and simple, is get more sleep! Your body, mind, and marriage depend on it!
With the amount of extra hours Americans are putting in between office work and household responsibilities, people are functioning at a much lower cognitive level than they should. When people don’t get the necessary amount of sleep, “they’re not going to be as attentive, they're going to make more mistakes, be more irritable," said Dr. Nicholas Rummo, director of the Center for Sleep Medicine at Northern Westchester Hospital in Mt. Kisco, N.Y.
According to a new poll recently released by the National Sleep Foundation, 20 percent of men and women surveyed nationwide have either lost interest in sex or have sex less often because of sleepiness.
Other research shows that 20 million married Americans have sex fewer than 10 times a year. That number absolutely baffles me. According to southwest Florida Pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church, “much marital discord stems from this lack of intimacy.” A lack of sexual pleasure in the bedroom can doom your relationship. “Sexless marriages (defined as sex less than 10 times a year) do not just invite infidelity and resentment,” said Wirth, “they also create rifts between husband and wife that often go unspoken and unhealed.”
So, my advice, plain and simple, is get more sleep! Your body, mind, and marriage depend on it!
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Turn Up The Heat!
Looking to spice things up with your partner but not sure where to begin? May I please recommend Redbook’s “21 Sex Moves That Will Rock Your World (and His!)”. This racy reference material is filled with pleasure pointers that are sure to help you turn up the heat!
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Remember the old saying “actions speak louder than words”? Well, it couldn’t be more true. Every move and gesture we make can say as much as what comes out of our mouths.
"Most communication experts now believe that almost 90 percent of what we say comes from nonverbal cues, which includes our body language," says Patti Wood, author of Success Signals: A Guide to Reading Body Language. This includes everything from our facial expressions, to eye contact, to our gestures, stance and posture.
Flirtatious body language is an entity all its own. While both men and women use body language as a means of communication, women generally send five times more sexual body language signals than men. However, we both send non verbal cues that, whether we know it or not, let others know we’re interested. We found some great ones on RomanceStuck.com:
Non-verbal flirtatious cues women send:
- Sways her hips while walking.
- Licks or bites her lips.
- Tosses, plays, or twirls her hair.
- Holds a lingering gaze a few seconds longer than usual.
- Giggles or laughs when you laugh.
- Engages in friendly teasing.
- Smiles suggestively.
- Casually touches to your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand.
- Raises or lowers her voice volume to match yours.
- Plays with her jewelry.
Non-verbal flirtatious cues men send:
- Arches his back.
- Laughs loudly.
- Tugs his tie.
- Clasps back of his neck.
- Squares his shoulders.
- Stiffens his stance.
- Teases you in a friendly manner.
- Smiles suggestively.
- Engages in direct eye contact.
- Casually touches you.
Do these trends ring a bell? What would you do when you cross paths with someone you’re interested in?
Thursday, March 6, 2008
Who knew? Weird and Wacky Sex Facts!
- The word "sex" was coined in 1382
- Women with a Ph.D. are twice as likely to be interested in a one-night stand as those with only a Bachelor's degree.
- The average speed of ejaculation is 28 mph.
- 10 to 15 percent of American women have never experienced an orgasm.
- There's more protein in the average ejaculation than there is in a medium-sized pork chop.
- The average man gets an erection 11 times a day – 9 of which happen during his sleep.
- The World Health Organization says that each day there are 100 million acts of sexual intercourse.
- According to a survey of sex shop owners, cherry is the most popular flavor of edible underwear. Chocolate is the least popular.
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Truth About the Green-Eyed Monster
I’ve always been told that jealousy is never a good thing, but over time, I’ve come to the conclusion that a little jealousy never hurt. However, there is a difference between healthy jealousy, and psychotic jealousy – which will make or break your relationship.
According to Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, a recent guest on the Oprah Show, there's nothing wrong with a little jealousy. Boteach says jealousy is a "very important, central emotion to relationships," and added that “jealousy is in fact a natural emotion that everyone feels when they truly care about and love the person they're with.”
However, jealousy can get out of control if it isn’t healthy. Intense, irrational jealousy can put a major strain on your relationship. “When suspicious thoughts begin to enter the mind of an insecure person the green-eyed monster will begin to rear his ugly head,” says Kim Lance, associate publisher of Online Dating Magazine. “You may find yourself questioning your partner’s actions or becoming too needy of your partner’s time and attention. If you don’t discuss your insecurities with your partner, questions may begin to fill your head.”
If you’re always wondering where your partner really is when they have to “work late”, or if you’re concerned that your partner likes their new gorgeous co-worker (from what your partner says) a little too much, your relationship may be in for some serious trouble.
Jealousy reminds us to not take each other for granted. It’s necessary to feel like your partner wants to be with you — if you’re feeling insecure, be sure to talk to them about their feelings for you. Once you realize that your partner truly loves you for you, and that you love and trust them deeply, your jealousy will readjust itself to a normal, healthy level.
According to Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, a recent guest on the Oprah Show, there's nothing wrong with a little jealousy. Boteach says jealousy is a "very important, central emotion to relationships," and added that “jealousy is in fact a natural emotion that everyone feels when they truly care about and love the person they're with.”
However, jealousy can get out of control if it isn’t healthy. Intense, irrational jealousy can put a major strain on your relationship. “When suspicious thoughts begin to enter the mind of an insecure person the green-eyed monster will begin to rear his ugly head,” says Kim Lance, associate publisher of Online Dating Magazine. “You may find yourself questioning your partner’s actions or becoming too needy of your partner’s time and attention. If you don’t discuss your insecurities with your partner, questions may begin to fill your head.”
If you’re always wondering where your partner really is when they have to “work late”, or if you’re concerned that your partner likes their new gorgeous co-worker (from what your partner says) a little too much, your relationship may be in for some serious trouble.
Jealousy reminds us to not take each other for granted. It’s necessary to feel like your partner wants to be with you — if you’re feeling insecure, be sure to talk to them about their feelings for you. Once you realize that your partner truly loves you for you, and that you love and trust them deeply, your jealousy will readjust itself to a normal, healthy level.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Seven Options, So Little Time
Now, I always knew I needed to have great sex with my partner. But, apparently there are 7 kinds of sex all couples need. Cosmopolitan.com sites the following:
- Take-your-sweet-time sex
- Light-speed sex
- Show-off sex
- Comfort-sex
- Wild-kingdom sex
- Surrender sex
- Female-domination sex
Guess I have some work to do!
Monday, March 3, 2008
Food for Thought!
We all know that food is the way to your partner’s heart, but why not make something that’s sure to stimulate your senses? Cook with a few of these aphrodisiac foods and they'll be hungry for more than just dessert!
Plug in your favorite aphrodisiac food on Rachel Ray’s recipe search, and you’ll get a list of fabulous meals you and your partner can make and enjoy together!
Plug in your favorite aphrodisiac food on Rachel Ray’s recipe search, and you’ll get a list of fabulous meals you and your partner can make and enjoy together!
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