When Keeping Score Crosses the Line

Let’s face it. When it comes to relationships, we like to keep things fair. We tend keep track of who does what and measure each other task for task. But when does keeping score cross the line?

A time will come when we realize we’re so caught up in who is doing what that we forget the reason we’re together in the first place. And don’t think the Beckham’s or Brangelina’s of the world don’t suffer the same fate!

All couples go through this. What’s important is that we realize we don’t have to share tasks 50/50. So maybe you can’t afford to hire a nanny, chef and housekeeper like A-List celebrity couples. But if we both pitch in, the effort will come full circle. Relationships aren’t about breaking down daily tasks; they’re about taking care of each other and loving each other.

According to writer Keith Ferrazzi, “the bottom line here is ‘give.’ And I mean give on a huge scale. Make it a lifestyle, and you'll succeed, along with your friends and associates. Giving builds real relationships. Expecting and delivering payment, well, just doesn't.”

The lesson is in letting go. I’m not saying that you should allow your partner to walk all over you – just do nice things for them – even when you know you’ll get nothing out of it. If you know doing something for your partner will make you both feel good, do it! The reward will be substantial. Your love will grow and you’ll begin to appreciate each other in new ways you never thought possible.